Dear engaged couple,
I tell you this story, not to scare you, but to sooth your nerves. No matter how brutal your wedding planning—the miscommunications, the double bookings, out-of-control expenses–it will probably never be the nightmare experienced by a couple I married last weekend. The couple, is a young, bright, energetic duo who already at this stage in their life together has taken on major responsibilities: a house, two dogs, two cars, and two careers. In other words, this couple is not naïve—I would call them mature, thoughtful, well-organized, and sensible. And yet, things did not go well for them as they made and then RE-made plans for the wedding.


Despite all the cancellations, the double booking, the lost order, all’s well that ends well. The wedding was outside at a winery in Charlottesville. It had rained every evening the week leading up to the wedding, but that Saturday evening there was nary a cloud in the sky. The ceremony went off without a hitch, the dj was wonderful, the music selections awesome, the table decorations fantastic, and everyone was very, very happy. So, what lessons are to be learned here? How about:
“Adversity, and perseverance and all these things can shape you. They can give you a value and a self-esteem that is priceless.” I didn’t make that up. I found it on brainy quotes. It’s by someone named Scott Hamilton.
Or, if you prefer something with a more religious bent, how about this, by evangelist Charles Spurgeon: “By perseverance the snail reached the ark.” The couple is now married, and happily so, I hope. They deserve to be!
From your wedding preacher
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